If we have things learned from our experiences this year, we also have things to banish in order to become better and wiser in the coming years. Below is the list of things one should stop doing before embarking on a new chapter.
1. Don’t give in to assumptions to avoid getting into trouble. Most of them are wrong. Seek the truth and deal with it professionally no matter how facts slap you in the face.
2. Don’t fret about people judging your unchanged imperfections. You are not winning the crowd; you are loving your soul.
3. Stop being condescending towards others. Don’t consider yourself best at something no matter how knowledgeable you seem. Regard yourself as a student in every circumstance learning from every person you meet regardless of his/her perspective. Be humble.
4. Don’t try to save friends who are there only to get advantage from you. You are not things to be used only when they need you. You are what you are created to be. A human! Distance yourself from them as soon as possible. Saving them would utterly make you less of a person. You don’t deserve varnished truth.
5. If you desire a rose without thorns, you are not living a life in reality. Stop wanting that! Bitter things are doomed to happen to let you taste the sweetness of life. Storms, deaths, accidents, rejections, and failures take place to provide more rooms for lessons and growth. Take them as a fuel to do better and become better.
I’d like to extend my immeasurable thanks to the people here on WP- friends, followers, and reading audience. Thank you for your support on my writings and for being part of my writing quest. Despite any turmoil that left us feeling deflated, we are still blessed because we have reached this far. This is worth rejoicing. I wish everyone a new year filled with hope, sanity, joy, love, and abundance.
It is a truism to say that everyone faces battles in life. At times, we stay silent. Sometimes, we open up. This time, my heart goes to the latter. I would prefer to put my feelings into words because I just can’t help. I hope I would not cry as much as it would.
As a few of you might know, I was unemployed and in a depressive state last year. My experience affected me so strongly that I doubted my potential and questioned my existence. The worst thing that ever happened to me is when I woke up each morning and shed tears. When my mother called me, I wiped my face as though nothing happened. My sleeping and eating patterns rapidly changed and I went out of our house less often. I was not okay, but I showed a different face in front of my family. I shared some varnished truth with them because I hate someone putting himself/herself in my shoe most especially if that someone is the person I love. I just don’t want him/her to feel what I felt. Thankfully, my coping mechanism withstood that obstacle. I diverted my attention to something. Something I used to love. I drew a lot. I read a lot. I wrote a lot. I busied myself with a myriad of diversions. Enough to let myself slowly forget what I was feeling. I thought that was the greatest challenge I had ever encountered.
On December 16 of this year, we were hit by a typhoon. I was away from my family because I worked in spite of the weather condition. There was no suspension of work in our company because of the need for service to our clients. The night when typhoon Rai (Odette) made its landfall gave me a traumatic experience. It ravaged my hometown, other areas in Cebu, and other provinces in the Philippines. I was petrified because I did not receive any replies from my family. And it was my first time not being around with them. After my three-day stay, I opted to go home. What caught my attention when I arrived home is our house at a slant with a few roofs blown away. My whole world was turned upside down while looking at it owing to the fact that we are not well-fixed. Nevertheless, I was thankful because no lives were lost. We have nothing to do, but to deal with its aftermath. At this time, my family is living in a hut adjacent to our house.
We are all in the same boat, so to speak. However, the severity of difficult circumstances makes us different from each other. Needless to say, we don’t own all the problems in the world. We are not alone. There are those who have suffered worse than us. There are those whose pain is more unbearable than ours. But what I dislike the most is both afflictions happened in the same month of different years. It is always in December. A time when everyone is supposed to feel joy and bring it to each other’s hearts. A season when all better celebrate life than live it. A moment when good tidings prevail over the bad ones. In spite of the situation, I declare that those in darkness will see light at the end of the tunnel. I declare that everyone will rise and win after faltering and losing. I declare that the tears will be replaced by smiles one day. I declare that the waves of time will soon be calmer. I declare!
“Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow’s the future, but today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present.”
Experiencing what our hearts least desire at the moment can make us view the words above differently. The likelihood of disbelieving the present as a gift in the face of adversity is high. It is because we give much more importance to what is going on in us than what is outside of us. It is unquestionably right, but allowing ourselves to be blindfolded by the things around us until we become less appreciative of them should never be a part of an option.
Almost every one of us is susceptible to defeats. We all lose our balance and weaken our magnitude at specific points in our lives. This causes us to carry emotional baggage and ultimately leads us to discontentment in the present moment. I firmly believe that there is nothing wrong with sinking into the valley of gloom, but showing gratefulness for the simple things we have been blessed with should be a great choice. It is essential that everyone pay heed to himself/herself; however, one of the keys to loving more and taking better care of oneself besides looking inward is by looking outward. Look around. Go spare a little moment. Talk with people whom you hold dear and who love you. Feel the breeze as it brushes your skin giving you renewed energy. Watch as the sun or the moon beams down as beacons lighting your path at your darkest. These little things that are frequently overlooked enormously contribute to living in the present and making life more meaningful. We are dots in a vast circle, but the moment we price ourselves and our loved ones with immense value would mean the bigger world to us. This life we have now is worthy of gratitude. Only by living in the “now” and appreciating it could we regard this time as priceless.
None of us is exempted from wishes. We all have them. We wish things went the way we wanted for us to feel better. We said not-so-good things to someone and we wish we hadn’t done it. We wish someone could fill the missing pieces within us, but we only felt someone’s presence right after knowing that it was too late. We also wish we could save ourselves from losing who we really are sooner than we did because we loved someone too much. Although all of these become parts of history, the scars that are engraved on us cannot be hidden nevertheless. They are there. The same is true with our past. No matter how we want to bury it, we are not able and will not be able to do it. It is part of us. If there is one thing we can bring from the past to the present, it will be the learnings evoked from the experiences that are etched on our hearts and minds.
On the other hand, we also have hopes. We hope our imagination comes to life the way we envisage it. We hope to have all the possessions we dream of. We hope to become the better person we are capable of becoming in the near future. Seeing ourselves in the next five years or so and putting much hard work, perseverance, and consistency into our efforts to live the life we want would serve as a blueprint as we march towards greatness. But what if we are so engrossed in working for our goals in life that we miss out on checking on our loved ones when all they need is our time and attention. What if we are so driven to all the schedules that we become less empathic to our close friend who is on the verge of giving up because all we think is ourselves. What if we are so busy pursuing our career that we almost forget to look after ourselves when it almost costs our physical health because we are so focused on our future. These are instances that already happened and are more likely to happen when we think too much about the future.
If there is a solitary place everyone should reside, it will be the boundary between what was and what will be. Living in the past or in the future would haunt us and preclude us from seeing the things we should be grateful for and the people we should be grateful to. No matter how our present appears to some, we are not as unfortunate as we think. We have come this far which clearly substantiates that we receive a blessing every single day. A gift everyone could lose or receive. Let us all be thankful for today because not everyone is as privileged as us to face this moment. Let us be present in the present. Let us unbox and value this gift and be amazed at how blessed we are.